I just saw this on someone else’s blog, and I think it is a very cool idea!! Writing a letter to your 16-year-old self…
Dear 16-year old Nicolette
I am 27 and typing this message to you from our beautiful, cute little house in the Western Cape (yes – you are indeed going to meet the right husband, and it is not someone you have already met!)
I would like to share a few things with you, without giving away too much of your life to come…
Stop worrying about your hair – those curls you hate now, will one day sort themselves out – it is going to get better: a few years down the line the hairdressers at last learn to embrace curls! You will also get to know a wonderful little thing called GHD… but for now, stop straightening your hair!
School and what happens during this ‘teen time’ is not what life is about at all! You will get to know so many beautiful, wonderful people in your twenties. You will truly be blessed…
Please stop stressing about your studies and just do what you can while you quietly sit in God’s presence. Do not allow people to put pressure on you – do not allow it. You don’t have to please anyone but God. Don’t let teachers bully you, don’t be afraid of them – they also go to the loo, as our pastor said the other day.
What else can I tell you… your heart will break a couple of times, but the right one comes along – and your life with him will be better than anything you could imagine right now.
You will learn to LOVE cappuccinos… I know you hate coffee right now, but that’s okay – one day you will make up for all the coffees you missed out on!
On a more serious note, please relax: school is NOTHING compared to what awaits you. Don’t try to be cool or fit in. Chat with the coloured and black people who sit on one side of the school (the world will change for the better in the future). Wear what you want to, let your hair stand crazy wild (well done on getting that piercing – you will get another one when you are 20…!)
Oh yes! You will become very passionate about women’s rights. Don’t let anyone discriminate against you because you are a woman – you might not understand this now, but just remember to QUESTION QUESTION QUESTION everything this society teaches you – you don’t have to accept everything you are told and taught by people who are older than you. The meaning of a poem could be so much more than what your teacher is teaching the class: use your own mind and don’t back down!
Be kind to yourself – you are loved, and you will be loved in the future.
Okay, I have to go
Lots of love
Your older self
ps: you are going to be a writer one day:-)
Oh oh! You will see Germany and Mauritius before you turn 27!